YANGZHOU IMPRESSIONS #7 My new friend from the ferry crossing, whom IÍve named ñFaithfulî, calls me on Tuesday morning and we arrange to have dinner together Wednesday evening. On Tuesday, afternoon, however, after Office Hours, I ride my bike to West Slender Lake Park on a whim. ItÍs the kind of a cool, crisp New England autumn day that makes me want to walk in no particular direction for hours on end. Once inside the park, I read a plaque on how the Emperor from the Ming Dynasty had designated the Willow as a Yangzhou city landmark. Rows of willows, shorter in stature than those we have in the West, bend over gently on the banks of West Slender Lake, their branches gently skimming the surface as a light breeze blows. I turned off the main path and paid a woman 8 yuan (@ $1) to go inside a fenced off area where peacocks lounge on tree branches, not bothering to squawk when I get too close. I then wander further up a hill and see an abandoned amusement park. I finally find some workers who are sitting down having a cigarette by the hall of mirrors. ñGuan men, bu guan men ma?î (ñClosed or open?î), I ask. They assure me itÍs open, but I wander down another path to some greenhouses and poke around before exiting out into the main park surrounding the lake. I hear music. I climb the steep 24-step bridge and come to an outdoor stage where a folk group is performing Chinese traditional peasant folk dances. I watch for a while and then move on to an open stage in front of a small edifice on an incline of a hill. Two actors are performing some vignettes from Peking Opera and only the old timers and I stand by to watch. I then walk past the boats offering half-hour rides for sale and stop in at souvenir stands to have a quick look. But itÍs the weather that draws me here today. For a moment, IÍm walking in the autumn colors and breezes of my beloved New England. The next day, I wear my authentic Soviet sailorÍs suit to my classes. The kids are clapping and hootinÍ before IÍm even in the door. We have a lesson on the history and traditions of Halloween and I even use my laptop to show the class an animated file of kids trick-or-treating that was sent to me be my colleague Todd Parker. I then explain that if any student dresses up in a costume, he or she can come to my apartment on Saturday night from 8pm-9pm to collect candy. I use some of the students to exhibit what costumes they might consider wearing: ñAnd you might be a scary ghostî, I say, pointing to one young boy. ñAnd you, you could be a clown. And you, how about Chairman Mao?î The kids laugh. ñAnd this young man, why donÍt you dress as Bill Clinton, and you young lady,î I say, pointing at a shy young girl with glasses who canÍt meet my gaze, ñWhy donÍt you dress up as Monica Lewinsky?î At this, the class roars and I hope I havenÍt embarrassed anyone too much. That evening, Faithful and I are joined at a fish restaurant by his colleague and his colleagueÍs girlfriend, an attractive young woman named Wendy Ding. We dig into a Mongolian Hot Pot, the stares and whispering of other diners gradually becoming a white noise of sorts. WendyÍs English is clearly better than FaithfulÍs and she tells me that I am welcome anytime at the JingLing Xi Hotel where she works and sheÍd even arrange for me to do free karaoke. I thank her as I search around in the Hot Pot for more of those tasty critters that are much better than the eel and frog. After I finish my beer, they laugh, telling me that my face has turned red. I donÍt order any more beer. As we depart, Wendy gives me her business card and tells me sheÍd welcome my call at any time. Faithful and I head off on our bikes in the opposite direction and Faithful begins trying to convince me to stop off at the AA Disco with him. ItÍs Wednesday night at 8pm, I have early classes and I politely beg off. But Faithful is insistent. In his wandering English, he seems to have a rebuttal for every excuse I give. Finally, out of pity, I agree to go for ña half hour, no more, Faithfulî and he smiles and says, ñI pay, I payî. The entrance to the disco has all manner of characters hanging around outside and I wonder if IÍm still in nice, provincial little Yangzhou. Women wear miniskirts and make-up on top of their make-up. The young men dress up gangster-like, their hair slicked back, a suit, tie and obligatory shiny black shoes. I donÍt worry about my ratty blue jeans and slightly ripe black T-shirt as Faithful pays the entrance fee, figuring IÍm just here to watch the show. The ñshowî isnÍt scheduled to begin until sometime after 9pm, so Faithful and I grab a back corner table which affords us a panoramic view of the bar, the dance floor and the arriving clientele. A waitress brings us two cokes and Faithful lights one of his English cigarettes. ItÍs quite an impressive establishment, much more modern, hip and well-preserved than the other Yanghzou disco I had visited with my colleague Annie. I note the young couples sitting at their tables, drinking beers, smoking cigarettes, many with their arms wrapped around each other. ñAre these university students, Faithful?î, I ask. ñNo, these are workman.î Our waitress then informs us that the dancing will begin in about ten minutes. I ask Faithful about his family, knowing that he has a wife and a thirteen-year-old son. He tells me that he is 43 and that his parents, both 87, are still alive and living in Yangzou. He has two sisters and a brother who are anywhere from 15 to 22 years older than he is. ñI guess youÍre parents were not expecting to have another babyî, I offer. He tells me that his mother had ñdry breastsî at his birth and so he had to drink bottled milk. As he talks, FaithfulÍs head involuntarily shifts back and forth from the DJ booth where the show is getting ready to begin. I then notice some scantily clad Chinese woman gathering around the DJ booth and a singer with a microphone begins some karaoke. ñI donÍt understand words because it from South. Music from Hong Kong. But I can see it is love song.î I nod and listen to the man who has quite a beautiful voice. While the man sings, Faithful looks pensive. ñI live this, this Cultural Revolution,î he states very plain and matter-of-fact. His eyes are on the young people sitting around cocktail tables, drinking, smoking and laughing. ñWas it bad for you?î I ask. He scrunches up his handsome face in his best attempt to convey disdain. ñYes, yes, yes. Very bad. My father was teacher here in Yangzhou.î. ñDid they beat him?î I ask. He turns his gaze briefly from the dry ice that is being tested on the dance floor for when the show begins. ñYes, yes, they beat him,î he says. ñWho, the students?î I ask. ñYes, yes, the students. And I only 13 years old and they try to beat me but I run away.î He briefly crouches under our table with his arms in front of his face to imitate how he defended himself. At this point, two go-go girls climb on top of the bars and begin to dance as the music gradually heats up. One is wearing a full-length tight red leather dress. The other one, the best dancer of the lot, about whom certain of my friends would say ïNow THAT Miss Thing can shake itÍ, wears black skin-tight shiny leather pants and a black and white striped sleeveless muscle shirt, her gyrating midriff exposed for Faithful to follow, mesmerized. After a lost minute or so, Faithful is back. ñMy father, they put aƒî He simulates putting on a hat with his hands. I motion with my hands the outline of a dunce cap. ñYes, yes, yes!!î His eyes light up, knowing that I have a good understanding of much of what occurred in China during the period of his youth. He continues speaking to me, but his eyes do not leave the go-go dancers and the dried ice and the DJ coaxing everyone to get up and dance. ñAnd he not allowed home. They keep him. And I bring him meals. My mother sick and my brothers and sisters in countryside working.î He then picks up a matchbook from the table, folds it up and simulates slipping it inside something else. ñI not do this,î he says looking at me briefly. ñA note?Í I ask, ñyou didnÍt put a note inside with the meal?î He looks at me again for a quick second and then stares at the two new go-go dancers whoÍve climbed on top of the bar. ñYes, yes,î he continues, ñThat no good. It cause trouble.î Just then, the DJ invites everyone up for the first hot dance song of the night, and the twenty-somethings all simultaneously abandon their tables and are herded through the aisles up to the two-story dance floor. The DJ is now up on top of the bar with all four go-go girls and heÍs singing the song into the mike and waving his free arm in horizontal circles. I can tell IÍm losing Faithful as his eyes sit transfixed on the unfolding scene. ñHow does your father feel about the Cultural Revolution now, Faithful?î. He doesnÍt respond and I have to repeat my question. ñOh, my father? He a very good man. Peaceful man. He understands. He forgive them.î Before losing him again, I quickly insert, ñAnd your mother?î He scrunches up his face again. ñMy mother? She very angry.î He shakes his head in mock disdain and I canÍt tell if itÍs his disdain for his mother or her disdain for the worries and heartache caused her by the Cultural Revolution. ñAnd my father, he wear this sign on his arm,î He motions with his right hand to simulate an armband on his left arm. ñAnd what did it sayî, I ask, gently. ñIt say anti-revolutionaryî. The dancing is in full-gear now. We watch while I sip my coke and Faithful smokes another English cigarette. After an uncomfortable silence, I say, trying not to shout too loudly above the music, ñFaithful, you never had anything like this when you were younger, did you?î. He smiles briefly at me; clearly he has not understood my question, but he smiles deliberately nonetheless. I smile back and he goes right back to gazing out at the dance floor, a mixture of fascination and regret taking over his boyish features. On Friday, nine students show up for my regular ñOffice Hoursî and we decide to ride our bikes to a local restaurant for lunch and conversation. The electricity is out in the restaurant we choose. Candles burn on each of the establishmentÍs tables and I tell the students that this is the perfect atmosphere for a day-before-Halloween lunch. To get the conversation going, I ask the students what they want to be when they grow up. Several of the students say that they want to be lawyers and when I ask why, they say that the Chinese legal system is a mess, that it needs revamping and that they want to be of service in this manner when they get older. Before they answer, however, they look at each other conspiratorially and then choose their words carefully. ñDorothyî says she wants to be a newspaper editor. When I ask her why, she says that she likes editing and that ChinaÍs newspapers are in ñpoor conditionî and that she wants to make a difference in this way. Two students said they want to be doctors, one a surgeon. Finally, precocious little Linda says: ñAfter IÍve been an interpreter for a while, I would like to help my friend who is going to be a doctor. I want to help him with ñA-I-D-Sî. She spells out each letter very deliberately. ñWhy does this interest you, Linda? China doesnÍt seem to have a large problem with AIDS at this point,î I state. ñYes, but itÍs a big problem in the world and China cannot ignore it. If itÍs the worldÍs problem, then itÍs also ChinaÍs problem.î Later, as we ride home from the restaurant, Linda says to me, ñIÍm not like other Chinese children. For example, I love doing Chinese calligraphy and many other Chinese children hate it. Also, I love basketball and most of the other girls donÍt like it. I think IÍm very unusual for a Chinese.î The next afternoon, Halloween, as IÍm preparing my apartment for trick-or-treaters, thereÍs a knock on my door. ItÍs Miranda, one of my more personable students with a student I donÍt recognize. Miranda tells me that this is a friend from another middle school and that sheÍd like me to give her friend an English name. After deciding on ñAutumnî, Miranda unrolls a large scroll on which sheÍs done some beautiful calligraphy work. ñMiranda, this is gorgeous! How did you do it?î ñI made it for your birthday next week, Mr. Fray. ItÍs an ancient Chinese poem. You know, I have to stand for three hours to do this. No sitting.î After thanking her profusely and marveling over her truly wonderful work, she says to me out of the blue, ñMy grandparents live in the U.S.î IÍm quite surprised and press her for more information. They had left China many years ago, leaving MirandaÍs mother and an aunt behind. ñWhy didnÍt they take your Mother and aunt with them?î I ask, trying to appear innocuously curious. Miranda looks sideways at Autumn and gives an awkward smile. ñPolitical reasons,î she says She tells me she met them once when they came to Hong Kong and that her parents write to them. ñAnd why canÍt you go to see them?î I ask, not sure if IÍm overstepping my bounds. Miranda giggles nervously. ñPolitical reasons,î she says. I change the subject, but she says that she wants to come to the U.S. one day. About a half-hour before the trick-or-treaters are due, thereÍs a knock on my door. ItÍs ñJack Blueî, one of my students and a class monitor as well. I put him straight to work as I havenÍt a minute to lose. While weÍre making candy bags, he tells me that he wishes he wasnÍt so shy, that he thinks his English isnÍt good enough for him to speak to me. I reassure him that I can perfectly understand everything he says and that he seems to understand me as I rush around the apartment to get ready, blathering on at my normal clipped rate. When he leaves to get on his costume, IÍm struck by how anxious most of my students are about ñlosing faceî while speaking English to me and how much, in fact, theyÍre underestimating their abilities. To Chinese children, trick-or-treating is not merely stopping by for some candy. Halloween to them means a party and I was the unsuspecting host. Before I knew what was happening, fifty or sixty costumed children were in my apartment and I found myself opening up closed rooms and searching for hidden candy. Their costumes were wonderful and included soldiers, ghosts, a rabbit, a gypsy, a pirate, a snowman, a fairy princess, a ñWhite Hanged Ghost and a Black Hanged Ghostî and several other innovative creations. The boys began to get rowdy and blew up my birthday balloons and another boy was shooting Silly String all over the apartment. I pulled out my camera and began to get snapshots. Just as I got out my camcorder, one my students, Mandy, said to me, ñMr. Fray, do you remember when you were teaching us about Halloween in America and you were telling us how we could dress up?î ñOf course,î I answer, trying to check if my camcorder battery is full. ñWell, you pointed at Shelly and said that she could be Monica Lewinsky, and I want you to look at her now. She just arrived.î I then turn my attention to the door to my apartment and in walks a vision to behold. Little, shy, mousy Shelly with the glasses is now standing there in a full-length white dress (no, not blue) with high heels, make-up and a very fancy white hat with a red ribbon and a flowing veil. I am speechless. She looks about 25 years old. I nearly fall to the ground. The students delight in my reaction, laughing and clapping me on the back as my mouth remains open. I have enough bearing to turn on my camcorder to interview Ms. Lewinsky and IÍm still marveling when I turn off the camera. The rest of the party goes very well. Kids turn on the TV to watch ñZorroî, others just sit and talk and everyone poses for my camera. Ball shows up late with a younger cousin and I manage to scrape up some lollipops for the two of them. Several students stay behind to help me clean up. The nightÍs only casualties are my Birthday balloons, a set of stolen birthday hats and the phone line, which someone accidentally kicked out of the wall. All in all, as one of my students tells me as he walks out the door, Silly String hanging from his costume, ña very nice time for my first Halloween party!î![]()
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